Sita Wadhwani and Cyril-Vincent Michaud are a joy to be around for the express reason that it's impossible to spend time with them and not see how happy they are to be together, and just how appreciative they are of having found one another. Adding to the general all round adorableness, they're also quite literally all aglow about welcoming a new (human) addition to their family, which currently consists of the couple and their cat, Sourcil.
Below, the newly-minted married duo kick off a two-part series of interviews on Jossbox with couples who find themselves in love. 'Tis the season!
What do you do?
Cyril-Vincent: My two partners and I own a communication agency called Bhavishyavani Future Co and an event agency called Bhavishyavani Future Soundz. I’m also a DJ.
Sita: I’m a digital editor and content strategist.
How did you meet?
S: When I was living in Delhi over five years ago, I had an idea for a website and I contacted Cyril-Vincent to develop it for me.
Instead I moved to Bombay, started working for CNN and then Vogue and got in touch with Cyril-Vincent and his partners who, as Bhavishyavani Future Soundz, threw the kind of parties and played the kind of music that I really related to.
He was the guy I would find the most comfortable to talk to, the one still making sense at 3 am. We also lived in the same neighbourhood, so he would drop me home all the time.
How did you finally get together?
CV: For me it grew to a point where you cannot deny it, but the moment was a split second decision. We were on our way to an afterparty one night, but we decided to turn right instead of going straight, and turning right led to my house.
S: I mean, it had already kind of crossed my mind before, but I was like, “I respect him so much, I don’t want to just sort of, use him,” and my friends were all, “I’m sure he won’t mind.” (Laughs)
But it was when we first kissed that everything sort of came together. It just felt completely safe and right, and the fact that it didn’t stress me out from any angle, in any way; I knew that that meant something.
What do you think it was that made things fall into place?
S: I met Cyril Vincent at a time when I was over looking for a relationship; I didn’t want to be in one for the sake of it, I was looking for something on a much higher level.
Because I wasn’t seeing him as a potential partner, I could really see him for who he was, and vice versa. That familiarity and trust builds a kind of intimacy, but it’s still latent. You don’t see it, but it’s building. And it created a connection that was pretty undeniable for me.
CV: It’s funny because we kept bumping into each other but we didn’t have each other’s numbers, we didn’t have each other’s email ID, and I’m not on Facebook. I remember after our first date we had difficulty to meet again for the second date, because we still didn’t have each other’s numbers.
S: I mean, that’s how organically it all happened!
Who proposed to whom?
S: For us, I think I knew pretty much right away; the marriage happened when we met, in a way. We’d already made the commitment.
CV: But I still proposed the nice way.
S: It was a cool moment. I was in Paris for Fashion Week and Cyril Vincent was with me…
CV: We were visiting my family because I had just become an uncle…
S: And we went to a cave-like Japanese-French restaurant called Sola. It was French cuisine prepared by a Japanese chef, in the Japanese way.
CV: East meets West.
I really enjoyed the process of getting the ring. I went to Boucheron in Paris, and they make sure you have a nice time, they explain everything very gently – it’s nice for the man to have that experience too, right? You also want to feel it and be part of the process. And I didn’t want to have a solitaire ring or a classic one, I wanted something that is a little bit different, and can last a long time, something you can appreciate even when you are older.
S: He always thinks very deeply about everything.
CV: Either you do it properly or you don’t do it. You want to do it? Let’s do it fully.
How has marriage changed things for you?
Sita: As natural and organic as marriage can be, it’s not for the faint-hearted. You need the stomach for it. You really have to open yourself up and put all your vulnerabilities out there, confront your own evolution as a human being. It’s quite an epic adventure. For us, getting married and getting pregnant all came at the same time, so I’m looking at my life with much more depth now.
Cyril-Vincent: I mean, to get married is to form a family. Personally, it’s a strange feeling because of all that I heard before; everybody was saying, “Oh, you’re going to get married, and when you have kids, your life is over,” but I have the exact inverted feeling. Now I feel free, I feel better, like I can really do what I want to do. It’s a sense of accomplishment.
Sita, what’s your favourite thing about Cyril-Vincent?
S: That he’s a very evolved human being. He has a balance of masculine and feminine energies; he is able to be masculine but still relate to women on an emotional level, and it’s very rare to find that in a contemporary man.
CV: Maybe it’s because my mother is a very strong woman, and I have always dated very strong women. Feminism is a favourite subject of mine.
What do you fight about?
CV: I mean, many things. When you live with somebody, every small or big thing is a reason to argue and if it’s not resolved in a calm way you have to have a fight.
S: And then you take it to bed, and that’s just misery.
CV: Yes, we have lots of classic, cliché fights, like about driving.
S: I remember the last one. He has a very particular sense of humour which is filled with a deep irony which sometimes, honestly, goes right above my head.
We were invited to a party recently and the theme was Bond. We hate themes but he was all, “OK, I’m going to wear a tuxedo.” And he said it in this deadpan way, and I was all, “You cannot do that!” Of course, he was being ironic, and I didn’t get it – and then it went into a full blown fight about whether he was going to wear a damn tuxedo or not which, of course, makes no difference to the world whatsoever.
So what did you end up wearing?
CV: Half a tuxedo.
As told to Komal Basith.
Sita Wadhwani and Cyril-Vincent Michaud photographed by Komal Basith.
Final image by Paolo Regis.